A lot of people don't know this, but I have been in a relationship with another man since 2007. Both of us being adults, made this legally binding decision freely and with confidence because it was right for us. There have been ups and downs, but, like all relationships, we have found ways to work through it and move on. Our ability to do what is in each other's best interest and build something awesome together was in no way impeded by the fact that we are both men.
Before we entered into this relationship, we talked through what would happen if one of us were to pass away, become disabled, or want to leave the relationship at some point in the future. We knew what we were getting ourselves into and the government said it was okay by them.
Amazingly, our contract to enter into this relationship wasn't protested because we were both men. When we finished filing our documents, no one else felt like we were encroaching on their relationship or keeping them from having a fulfilling lifelong relationship as a result. Our all male relationship didn't keep anyone who was in a man and woman relationship from living out that choice for them. When it was all said and done, the LLC that me my business partner formed didn't affect ANYONE but us.
And, while forming an LLC is a much less emotionally charged issue than that of legally recognized marriage, there are some stark and clear parallels that I can't help but think about today. When two adults decide that they want to enter into a lifelong relationship, who should be able to stop them? The government sees no reason to not let me and my male business partner be committed to each other for life because our gender, age, and race make no difference in our ability to make that decision for ourselves.
On an even more personal note, Annie and I are in love. And have been for almost ten years. We've chosen to build our lives together, are committed to each other, and don't need anyone to tell us that our love isn't as real as theirs because we don't have a marriage certificate. But, when the day comes and we decide that we want to sign that legal document, I can't even imagine what I would do if people who don't know us told us we couldn't because they didn't like that we were in love. Our love doesn't affect them and has nothing to do with theirs.
Love is a choice between two people. Not the church. Not the government. Love is not something to be regulated or allowed. Love is far bigger than any definition we can put on it.
"Love is only a word until we decide to let it possess us with all its force. Love is only a word until someone arrives to give it meaning." - Paulo Coelho