A Crowdsourced Blog Post of Encouragement

I asked my friends on Facebook what they would say to someone going through a tough time and if they had any favorite quotes, blogs, or videos that they thought would be encouraging. When I asked, I had a certain friend in mind, but as the more than 30 responses came in, I thought it would be worthwhile to share them all in one place. Check them out below and leave a comment with what you would add.

The responses came in a few different categories:

QUOTES

When you are going through hell, keep going. - Winston Churchill

All good work is done in the defiance of management — Bob Woodward

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

“All of it is feedback and lessons. Those painful moments aren’t what you think they are- they’re actually your greatest opportunities to expand in self compassion and understanding “  - Jonathan Basker

“The only way out is through” - Jonathan Basker

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Morning Offering from John O'Donohue "To Bless the Space Between Us."

Websites/Blogs

https://www.dailyom.com

https://icanread.tumblr.com

Daily Affirmation App

Daily Hope email from Pastor Rick Warren

Nayiyah Waheed’s Instagram Account

Books

Untethered Soul- Michael Singer

The Daily Stoic Journal - Ryan Holiday

The Four Agreements

Videos

Miscellaneous Thoughts:

  • From my experience (no pun intended), it seems helpful to identify what the person is feeling in order to identify what might help the most. Meaning, the person who is feeling hopeless may be comforted by something very different than the person who is feeling extreme

  • Thank God for the answers that are on the way.

  • Drink Tea

  • Feeling all of the feelings just because they exist.

  • Write. Write. Write. Not to read later, to flush out. Morning pages. Also listen to Coldplay live.

  • Uplifting music, setting a happy goal (to look forward to later) ie; book a trip, watch the sunset, a concert, rezzo at fave restrurant,eat a donut...whatever endeavor that will create happiness. BE with those feelings, it's important for healing...andthen release them as soon as possible. I find being around grounded, happy, and light people always helps too. Looks like they have that part already covered. 😉 Writing without judgement definitely helps.

A Legacy of Strength

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I’ll never forget visiting Grandpa and Grandma for harvest when I was in sixth grade. It was my first solo trip by plane and I arrived just in time to hop up in the John Deere combine with Grandpa and bring in that year’s crop. They were really long days, but we had the best time talking about sports, business, and family and then were always greeted back home by Grandma’s cooking. 

One night, as we were putting away the combine and fixing a part that had come loose, Grandpa cut the palm of his hand on the exposes metal. A clean cut straight across his hand. And it was a gusher. Before I knew it, there was blood flowing down his hand and on to the ground. As I started to reach for the paper towels on the work bench, I caught him looking at me with a smile on his face. He wasn’t paying attention to his hand, or the pain I am sure he was feeling, he was watching me to see how I was reacting. When I later told my Dad this story, Dad told me that Grandpa was smiling because I didn’t flinch and that I wasn’t too much of a city kid after all. 

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The strength to love through pain is one of the things I will always remember about Grandpa. He was strong for everyone in his life, even when it was really hard for him. And a small squeeze from Grandma’s little hand was a huge source of strength for Grandpa, they were so in love.

I’ll never play a round of golf, a hand of cribbage, or sing a hymn at the top of my lungs without thinking about Grandpa. Not only because he was better at those things than anyone I’ve ever known, but he loved seeing others join in and do well at those things with him. 

I’ll also never take for granted the relationship that I have with my Dad because of the relationship my Dad had with his Dad, my Grandpa.  Dad and Grandpa worked hard on their relationship. They knew they were wired differently in parts of life, but they also knew that they loved each other more than any of their differences. My Dad made Grandpa so proud and loved him so much. For as long as I can remember, when our minivan packed to the gills with kids and suitcases would start to pull away from another visit to the Iowa farm, Grandpa wouldn’t be able to hold back the tears of saying good-bye to his son. It was love beaming from his tear soaked face and we all knew how much he loved us all, but especially Dad.  

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And now that Grandpa has passed on and is singing hymns with Grandma louder than ever before, those he leaves behind are here to carry on his legacy. A legacy of strength, love, and pride in your family no matter where they are or what lies ahead.